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  1. The Importance of a Positive Attitude for a Military Spouse

    It goes without saying that having a good attitude towards the ups and downs life throws your way is generally a helpful characteristic to have.  In military life, however, it is even more vital.  Life as a military spouse requires the relinquishment of a certain amount of control that for...
  2. The Emotional Timeline of a Separation

    Brief or extended, the words “I’ll be leaving on_______ and by home by _______” strike a sadness into every military spouse’s heart. It’s a process of it’s own, somewhat like a grieving. Most spouses are given varying amounts of time to plan and prepare, but also to worry and become...
  3. Rent vs Own: Housing in the Military

    Four years ago, we owned our own home as civilians. My husband was out of the Marines, we’d moved back to our hometown, and felt like we were ready to buy. Two years later with the housing market crash and dead end jobs, we realized it was a very poor choice. We...
  4. Best Books for Military Wives

    When my husband first joined the Army, I wanted to read all I could on what it was like to be a military wife. I bought a few books and over the last few years I have read a few more. Here are my favorites: 1) Faith Deployed: Daily Encouragement...
  5. Readjusting After a Deployment

    You wait and you wait and you wait for the day your soldier gets home from deployment.  Finally your life can go back to “normal,” finally you won’t have to shoulder all the responsibilities of holding down the home front.  But homecomings aren’t always the fairy tale we build up...
  6. Why You Need a “Deployment BFF”

    Deployment is hard, there is no getting around it.  Whether it is your first time around or your fifth, having your spouse gone for months at a time is just no fun.  Having a great support system is one of the best things you can do to help you through...
  7. Why you should blog during a deployment

    If you have ever thought about starting a blog, a deployment might be a good time to start. I started my first Army wife blog during my husband’s second deployment. We were in Germany and I really wanted to share some of what I had been through. I figured there...
  8. Making the Best of a Duty Station You Didn’t Want.

    Two years ago, I waited with breathless anticipation for where my husband would get his first official station from the Army. Six years before in the Marines, he’d been stationed at Camp Pendleton and I moved there, then he got out of active duty and we moved home. There was no choice...
  9. Dealing with Military Disappointment

    My husband re-joined the Army in late 2005 after being out for about 8 years. During that time he met me, we got married and had our first little boy. So when he joined he did not have to repeat basic and got to pick where he wanted to be...